7 Science-Backed Secrets to Lasting Happiness and Health

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What if everything you’ve been told about the key to happiness money, fame, status was wrong? After 85 years of meticulous research, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has revealed a truth that flips conventional wisdom on its head: the real driver of a long, fulfilling life isn’t found in a bank account or on a résumé. It’s found in the quality of our connections. This is not a warm, fuzzy feeling.

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It’s generation-spanning, data-driven insight that documents that building deep, compassionate relationships can improve mental health, shield against body disease, and even extend life. Through infancy to the methods in which we form friendships in later life, the study findings are a recipe for well-being across life. Here’s a closer exploration of this landmark study’s most valuable lessons and how they can be applied to everyday life.

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1. Quality Relationships Trump Wealth and Fame

From the Harvard study, they discovered that intimate, loving relationships are much stronger predictors of happiness and longevity than IQ, wealth, or even fame. As Study Director Robert Waldinger explained, this is the way it played out: “Taking care of your body is good, but taking care of your relationships is a kind of self-care as well.” The study participants who were most content with their relationships at age 50 were also the healthiest at age 80 regardless of socioeconomics.

It’s not the number of acquaintances in the hundreds. It’s the quality of the few intense, trusting relationships people you can call when life gets messy. They serve as barriers to stress, mood boosters, and even lower chronic disease risk.

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2. Loneliness Can Be as Bad as Having Unhealthy Habits

The conclusions and public health alert of this study are stark: chronic loneliness is as detrimental to our health as smoking or binge drinking. The U.S. Surgeon General has compared its health hazard to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Loneliness raises inflammation, disrupts sleep, and puts people at risk of heart disease, stroke, and dementia.

But understand that loneliness and aloneness are not the same. Aloneness can be restful, rejuvenating; loneliness is the painful sense of being alone. Nurturing even small, repeated contact such as a smile from the coffee shop barista or next door neighbor can help to neutralize its force.

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3. Social Fitness Is Just as Important as Physical Fitness

Waldinger and Marc Schulz referred to this constant maintenance of relationships as “social fitness.” Relationships decay like muscles, as they do, if one doesn’t work them. Social fitness is simply checking in on the health of your relations regularly and making small mindful adjustments to repair them.

These might be as mundane as flashing a speedy text to someone you are missing, or organizing a coffee meet, or hanging out with a group of friends over something they enjoy doing. All these added up across time create a web of care that not just accumulates in happiness and resilience but also stacks them up.

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4. Experiences in Early Life Determine Long-Term Well-Being

Cross-generational findings from the study show a supportive childhood as a predictor of better adult relationships and emotional health. Childhood adversity, on the contrary, predicts increased risks of depression, anxiety, and sickness in adulthood.

Nobody can turn back the clock, but healthy coping mechanisms and emotional intelligence are acquired at any age. Therapy, mindfulness, and supportive communities can reprogram harmful cycles and create stronger bonds in the future.

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5. Healthy Habits Enhance the Benefits of Connection

Good relations are a good thing, but they need to be underpinned by good ways of living. Six variables were identified in the study as healthy predictors of healthy aging: physical activity, not smoking or being a drink problem, healthy adult coping capacity, possessing an optimal weight, stable marriage, and among lower socio-economic levels education.

They support each other. Working out with a partner, say, not only tones the body, but also enhances social relationships, a double dividend for health and contentment.

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6. Purposeful Work and Retiree Engagement Matter

An interesting fact: when people retire, they miss work less than they miss workplace social relationships. People who formed or expanded new social relationships after disconnecting with their job reported greater life satisfaction and better health.

Regardless whether it is club membership, part-time work, or volunteering, staying in touch with people after retirement does a lot towards maintaining a sense of belonging and membership, both of which remain paramount to physical as well as psychological well-being.

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7. It’s Never Too Late to Build Meaningful Bonds

Most of these individuals who thought they were “no good at relationships” did go on and establish deep relationships later in life maybe at age 70, maybe at age 80. Waldinger has examples of people establishing love, friendship, or community when they didn’t even think they were going to.

The takeaway? Relationship abilities are not innate. Through small, incremental actions like inquiring about others, assisting others, or working in groups anyone can develop their base of supporters, regardless of age or circumstance.

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Harvard Study’s fundamental message is freshly exciting: good relationships are the key to a good life. They’re not a first to happiness they’re a first to resilience, health, and longevity too. By placing relationships in the same motivation that one would place on job or fitness goals, anyone can construct a more satisfying, richer life that will last an entire lifetime.

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